In light of what happened at work last Friday, I REALLY didn’t want to come into work on Monday. But, I’m a professional. And, my clients count on me to advocate on their behalf, not to sit at home pissed off at my bosses. So, into work I came, knowing that I would confront my boss.
Here’s a little thing to know about me. I HATE confrontation. I know I’m a trial attorney and I have absolutely no problem doing it for someone else. But, for me -- I hate it. Hubby and my friends used to laugh when they would imagine the two of us arguing (he’s a lawyer, too), but I always told them, Hubby wins. Because I won’t argue. I really hate arguing.
Regardless, I knew for my own sanity, I would have to say my piece to my boss. After 9 years at this firm and 7 of those as his associate, I thought it was appropriate for him to know how I felt about the situation.
So, with a pit in my stomach, I came into work and waited. I didn’t get an opportunity until around 11:45 to speak with him. The conversation was short and not what I expected. I’ll spare you the line-by-line, which I emailed to Hubby immediately after, like a transcript, but it essentially went down like this:
I told him I was SICK about the fact that I wasn’t put up for partner when we had just discussed this last December and now I’m being told it’s too late by the other partner in our group because those decisions were made back in January (even though the vote isn’t until June). So, my concern/frustration/hurt is coming from not knowing whether I was merely overlooked or whether you (my boss) has concerns about my abilities.
His response was that I was right, that it shouldn’t be too late and that he would go speak with the managing partner directly. To his credit, he did go to speak with the head of the firm, but he was out yesterday. My boss told me later that he would “definitely” meet up with him today and keep me posted.
So...we’ll see. In my mind it’s just as bad that I wasn’t put up because of negligence v. “them” thinking I don’t deserve to make it. In fact, I think it’s worse because it shows little to no regard for my career in a place where you can’t make it on your own. You need the support of your partner. I’m glad he’s going to step up now, but it may be too late.
Either way, I’ll keep you all posted...
Here’s a little thing to know about me. I HATE confrontation. I know I’m a trial attorney and I have absolutely no problem doing it for someone else. But, for me -- I hate it. Hubby and my friends used to laugh when they would imagine the two of us arguing (he’s a lawyer, too), but I always told them, Hubby wins. Because I won’t argue. I really hate arguing.
Regardless, I knew for my own sanity, I would have to say my piece to my boss. After 9 years at this firm and 7 of those as his associate, I thought it was appropriate for him to know how I felt about the situation.
So, with a pit in my stomach, I came into work and waited. I didn’t get an opportunity until around 11:45 to speak with him. The conversation was short and not what I expected. I’ll spare you the line-by-line, which I emailed to Hubby immediately after, like a transcript, but it essentially went down like this:
I told him I was SICK about the fact that I wasn’t put up for partner when we had just discussed this last December and now I’m being told it’s too late by the other partner in our group because those decisions were made back in January (even though the vote isn’t until June). So, my concern/frustration/hurt is coming from not knowing whether I was merely overlooked or whether you (my boss) has concerns about my abilities.
His response was that I was right, that it shouldn’t be too late and that he would go speak with the managing partner directly. To his credit, he did go to speak with the head of the firm, but he was out yesterday. My boss told me later that he would “definitely” meet up with him today and keep me posted.
So...we’ll see. In my mind it’s just as bad that I wasn’t put up because of negligence v. “them” thinking I don’t deserve to make it. In fact, I think it’s worse because it shows little to no regard for my career in a place where you can’t make it on your own. You need the support of your partner. I’m glad he’s going to step up now, but it may be too late.
Either way, I’ll keep you all posted...
2 comments:
I hope for your sake that you get some straight answers. I'm also not big on confrontation (to the point that trial work was NEVER on the radar for me).
What a frustrating, stressful situation. I hope that they get things cleared up so you can be partner.
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